“In my day you didn’t stay off your work unless you had no legs ”.

This was a comment made by a close relative of my husband’s. It was made loudly in front me, but to another person – a neighbour if I remember right. But I tend to think it was for my benefit . . . as I was the only person in the room who was off work.
Actually the exact comment was something like : “unless you had both legs amputated” , or “unless you had broken both legs” – but you get the gist of it.
At the time I was working with Ntl but was off sick. Just to add – I only got paid “sick pay” for 2 months (full pay) and 2 months (half pay). If I had managed to hold on for 1 more month before caving in and having to go off sick, my entitlement would have been better as it improved with each year employed with the company. But “holding on” anymore just wasn‘t possible. I had got to the stage where I couldn’t hold on any more.
No choice.

This type of comment makes me upset for many reasons :

a) All the years I had spent working full-time (approx 21yrs)
b) All the studying over the years while working full time. (approx 6yrs) To get professional qualifications in insurance and financial advice & compliance work. I had been keen to learn and get on.
c) All the years I had worked in various 2nd jobs (pub jobs) at night to save up. (maybe 3 or 4 yrs)  For 3 or even 4 nights a week on top of my full-time job.

This comment implied that I was some sort of sciver and work-shy. And maybe happy to be at home while being paid ? (even though I either wasn’t paid much – or nothing at all if sick pay had ceased at the time).

It funny but this must be from around 2002/2003 – and I’m still trying to defend myself after all these years. After 10 years. It just shows how this sort of thing really takes root in your memory.

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