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I need the help of a good solicitor in Glasgow

Re possible upcoming Small Claims Action.
Resulting unfairly and shockingly because of previous Voluntary Bankruptcy.

I only have enough energy just now to copy below an email I sent to my usual solicitor last week. As it gives some background.
But he told me his firm don’t do civil court cases therefore cannot help.

I am simply not well enough to phone around. Therefore adding this to my blog. And will advertise/appeal on Twitter.
Maybe not ideal but its all I can think of.

” Hi Xxxxx

I need to ask for some legal help.
It’s not directly relating to the Bankruptcy. But it’s a situation that has come about because of it.

A firm of property factors – Axxx Property – are pursuing me for a bill of around £9000.
This relates to one of my 14 ex buy to let properties. In Motherwell.

The bill is for their regular factors bills plus charges for a lot of work they have done to the common buildings and grounds.
The date of my Bankruptcy was Sep 2014 and I was discharged Sep 2015. (Although “discharge” seems to mean nothing as the stuff and shocks keep coming.)

This property in Motherwell apparently I still legally own, as well as some others. Because everything is so slow.
I have been told the Axxx bill is for charges calculated from AFTER my bankruptcy.
The Trustee In Bankruptcy have told me Axxx are within their legal rights to pursue this. And that bills etc from AFTER my Bankruptcy are not part of the Bankruptcy and technically due by me.

Which kindof defeats the purpose of the Bankruptcy . . . .

The Trustee are dealing with communications with Axxx. And have told Axxx about the bankruptcy and that I have no way of paying this bill. But Axxx have lodged the claim at the court and seem set on pursuing it. They insist it is their procedures.

I asked the Trustee what is the worst that could happen?
They said I could be made Bankrupt again. (Hopefully not, but it is possible.)
My only asset now is my half share of the flat we now live in. The mortgage on it is £xxxxxx so there is probably little equity in it.

The reason for my contact is I want to be properly represented – IF it proceeds at the court. (I may not be using the right phrases here as I have no experience of this sort of thing. But you hopefully know what I mean?)

There is no way I am fit to attend a court hearing. I can’t manage a simple phone call most of the time.
My ME is Severe ME. And is too disabling.

So I want someone to represent me.
As you can imagine – the threat of being possibly made Bankrupt again is awful. Or losing our home.

If I had been told at the outset that stuff like this was likely – I would NEVER have gone down the Voluntary Bankruptcy road.
It has been sheer hell.

And massively detrimental to my health.

When the purpose was to “give everything away” and have it controlled by a Trustee – in order to have a chance to improve my health.
But the important stuff I wasn’t told.
(However this isn’t the point right now.)

My only priority here is to have somebody do their best to represent me if the Small Claims thing proceeds.
To convey how badly my health is affected by having Severe ME (I can let you have medical stuff). And how it would be very unjust to be made Bankrupt again given the circumstances and history. And more importantly would probably cause my health to deteriorate even further (which terrifies me).
Also I was hoping that if Axxx know I am going to be properly legally represented – maybe it could put them off proceeding ?

If Cxxxxxxx Sxxxxxxxxxx could represent me that would be great.

Xxxxx, I know I have begged for your help many times over the last 3 years. And you have told me that you cannot help me in any way at all, as you know nothing about Bankruptcy.
But I have been a client of Cxxxxxxx Sxxxxxxxxxx for over 20 years.
I did a lot of business with you during my Property years. About 10 years of buying, selling, remortgaging.
And I have recommended people to you.

So if you cannot help me with this Small Claims thing – could you make some phone calls for me instead ?
To get a solicitor for me ?
And explain some of the background to them. Just to help make it a bit easier for me ?
NB. I would expect a bill for your time. I don’t expect you to make calls for me for nothing.

I am simply not well enough to do phone calls.

The brain fog (AKA cognitive impairment) that I have with my ME is pretty bad a lot of the time.
It makes phone calls too hard. I can’t remember stuff, communicate what I need to say, get muddled, etc.
This email is massively hard work and exhausting. But I can take hours over it with breaks. Change mistakes, etc.

And another worry is any time limits for things. This is also why I feel I need proper representation.
Because with ME – when I push myself to use extra energy on something big (like typing this email) – I am then much worse for the next few days. Often completely wiped out with severe headaches and exhaustion.

So I’m concerned that I won’t be able to do things quickly enough, eg. any forms needed.

Sorry this is so long.
Will wait to hear from you.

Hope you are well and business is good.

Best regards

Anne Dean ”

 

A typical day 

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Yesterday was a typical day. With me exhausted although I managed to do very little.

Morning :  

Woke at 7.15 am.  Had a cereal bar and water for breakfast. (Keep these by the bed.) Then sent a few text messages. Then had a quick look at Twitter (thats usually where I get any news about whats happening in the world). And re-tweeted a few tweets by other people to help raise awareness about ME or CFS. I don’t manage to talk to people on twitter much. It’s usually too exhausting for me. But retweeting some things makes me feel I am doing something. Taking part. 

 By 9 am I was pretty tired and that was all I had done. Oh – and I had brushed my teeth too.  The headache, which had started after about two minutes of using my mobile phone, was now quite bad. (Even thinking and typing a text can be an exhausting activity.) And the exertion of brushing my teeth had made me out of breath and the movement had made the headache even worse. I had to give in and rest. Lying down in bed again. And took painkillers. 

I had to rest in bed until 3pm. Lying down, doing nothing, no stimulation at all, sleeping much of the time.                   6 hours rest/sleep needed after 90 mins of “activity”.                                                      I put activity in commas because in no normal well person’s world would it take 90 mins to send 4 texts and 4 retweets on twitter. And brush teeth. 

Afternoon :  

Got up around 3 pm.                           Managed to freshen up using body wipes (wet wipes). And got dressed. Eat a banana and a babybel cheese for lunch. And drank more water. Lots of water. As just the exertion of freshening up and getting dressed made me out of breath and thirsty. And I was tiring again.                             Tried to fight the urge to rest – as I was hardly up any time. Tidied up the bedroom, opened window and folded the duvet back to air the bed.    Forced to rest as now very tired, even more out of breath, and chest heavy. Plus neck pain. 

Sat on sofa in living room for about an hour or more. Just resting, with neck and head propped up and supported with cushions (to try to ease neck pain). I was so tired again that I wanted to lie down on the sofa. But the feeling of weight on my chest got worse when I tried this.

By 5 pm I wasn’t really feeling much better. But I needed to eat something more. A sickly headache was starting up,  and I was aware that I hadn’t eaten very much today. Which was probably now  causing the headache. (I always feel awful if I go too long without food.)   

In the kitchen I just put some cheese and cold ham on a plate. With some cherry tomatoes. And a muffin. Ideally I would have liked to make a sandwich – but I couldn’t stand long enough to do this. So it was a case of just grabbing what I could.  After eating the food I felt a bit better. And was able to make a cup of tea.  This helped ease the headache a bit  – but the other symptons were still there. 

I wanted to do something (anything) to try and distract my attention away from the symptons. This isn’t easy to do. Because doing anything physical is very hard with the chest symptoms. And usually increases them and I end up even more breathless with a worse “weight” on the chest. Or a tight restricted feeling.  Reading wasn’t possible as I knew it would trigger more headaches. And it is hard to read and remember any of it with the level of “brain fog” that I have with ME.  Watching any TV was out of the question too. As i couldn’t tolerate the sound, or any bright colours or movement on the screen.   

So I eventually decided to listen to a recording from a website from an American Life Coach/trainer/motivational person. I had come across this on twitter and had saved the link, as thought it might be helpful.  To be honest, I have probably saved hundreds of interesting looking links to things over the years on twitter. But I haven’t been well enough to read or listen to most of them.                                             With ME – the gap between what I would like to do and what I can actually do is huge. And a big source of frustration. 

Early Evening : 

I listened to the 30 min recording. And it was good – I liked it. I immediately forgot most if it of course (damn brain fog . . .).  But I will listen to it again for sure.  It was about taking full 100% responsibility for everything that has happened in your life. Especially the bad stuff. And losing any kind of “victim” mindset.  It was good and I can definetely see the value in this. As I know I am holding onto a lot of anger, resentment and distress. And I still have so many nightmares about the bankruptcy (which is still ongoing). And about bad experiences with medical people. Plus the attempted PIP claim and terrible experience with Atos (nurse from Hell) just about finished me off. 

But maybe even listening for 30 mins was too much for me. Not only did my headache and neck pain come back with a vengeance, but my head was spinning. And my mind racing with the memories of all the bad things that have happened over all the years I’ve had ME. All the losses. All the medical mistreatment. The possibly ill-advised Bankruptcy (bankruptcy in reverse really). My marriage almost breaking (several times) with the strain of everything.   Then my brain was running through memories from the Property years – some rubbish letting agents, bad tenants (one actual tenant from hell), scum tradesmen, etc etc.  All bad memories. 

My energy just totally crashed.              And I had to take more painkillers and get into bed. Just as my husband got home from work. Luckily he would make the dinner. (He always has to make the dinner, and I’m really grateful for this.) 

I didn’t manage to get up again until 11.30 pm. Still felt rough but was hungry and thirsty. Hubby had eaten his dinner ages ago and was about to get ready for bed. So I warmed my dinner up in the microwave and eat it at midnight. Not ideal . . .  But very grateful that hubby had cooked it. And also grateful (or relieved) that I had been able to get back up and eat.  There have been many nights I couldn’t do this at all. And had to eat in bed, sometimes in a lying down position. Or just too exhausted to eat at all.  Over the last few years. 

But limited and small as this day was – I would rate this as an OK day. Out of a choice of Good, Bad or OK. 

I have had much worse days than this over the last few years. 

And I have had better days too.

And hope to have more better ones. 

But it shows how far removed our lives are from normal levels of ability when we have ME.  In what other illnesses  would a person class their day as OK when all they could manage to do was : 

Send a few texts messages, be on twitter for 10 mins, up and out of bed for only 3 or 4 hours (much of this resting),  eat some food, listen to a 30 min recording, talk to husband for about 20 mins.

Its not much . . .                                           But as I mentioned – I have had many poorer days than this. And I’m very grateful for the better days. 

 

Reblogged : Severe ME: ‘Took nearly 40 years to be diagnosed’

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The medical mistreatment and ignorance about how bad ME is seems to be a world-wide problem.
This is one person’s experience from Australia :

ME Australia

by Sasha Nimmo

Between 24,000 – 60,000 Australians have severe ME.  This is the first in a series telling the stories of Australians with severe ME.

Given the wrong medical treatment and intervention harmed this patient’s health to the point of no return. Disbelief by medical professionals and community care workers made life even more difficult. This patient fears further mistreatment so asked to maintain anonymity.

Above is a picture of Basil, an affectionate miniature fox terrier and company during difficult times.

Even after so many decades of illness, this patient still holds hope in medical research and participates in studies at Griffith University’s National Centre for Neuroimmunology and Emerging Diseases, one of the few places studying severe ME.

This patient shares their story with us.

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Death of another ME sufferer

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I wanted to do this post about the very sad death of Jodi Bassett who was a long term sufferer with Severe ME. Probably Very Severe ME.

She died on 11th June 2016.
She was just 40.
She had suffered from Severe ME since she was 19.

She created an amazing and comprehensive website called The Hummingbirds Foundation For ME.
http://www.hfme.org.
To help others.

I think this was mainly done from her bed as she was so ill and disabled by her ME.
To quote from her website, its purpose was :

” Fighting for recognition of ME. And for patients to be awarded the same basic human rights as those with similar neurological diseases such as M.S. ”

I’ve only been able to read tiny bits of the site because of my own symptoms being bad a lot of the time.

Jodi explained on the website

” I’m 100% housebound and 99.5% bedbound.
Yet like so many other ME sufferers I have had to fight so hard just to try to get even basic help and understanding from doctors, friends and family members ” .

That sums it up really.
The almost impossible position that people with ME are in.
We have to fight so hard for anything.
But the exertion makes us even more ill.
Such a vicious circle.

I’ve given personal examples of this throughout my blog.

The news about Jodi’s death I read on twitter. Where I get most news.
There were many tweets about it on Twitter.

People were very saddened by the news.

In the meantime I wanted to help raise awareness. 

And express my sadness for Jodi and so many others who have died.

R.I.P Jodi

The Bankruptcy stuff just keeps getting worse . . .

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My brain is exhausted and burned out.
Totally fried.

The never ending Bankruptcy stuff is still going on. No end in sight – 2 years now.
In fact its worse than that. 

I have a letter from the Trustee In Bankruptcy dated a month ago. It states that I may be made bankrupt AGAIN. Or sequestrated – to use the correct Scottish term.
It’s not definite, but still shocking to read.

The whole reason for the Bankruptcy (which was voluntary) was because my health was so poor at the start of 2014.
My ME was severe and I was too ill to carry on. I couldn’t do anything more.
I know I keep repeating this.
Sorry.

Because my health has been so bad,  I haven’t been able to communicate effectively with the Trustee In Bankruptcy. Any time I have tried it goes wrong.
The “brain fog” that comes with ME has been too severe and has ruined any communication attempts.

From Day One I had begged for everything in writing. Because of the brain fog.
But it doesn’t happen.
(Its often very hard for me to read stuff too, and digest the information. But at least if I have a letter or email I can read it over and over. 10 times if needed. Even then, I may still not understand it because of my ME. But there would be a bit more chance of it.)

Many times over the last 2 years I’ve been asked to do things I couldn’t do. 
Or provide information I couldn’t provide.
Or to read long documents and sign – which I couldn’t read.
All because I’ve been too unwell.

The WHOLE POINT of the voluntary Bankruptcy was to hand everything over to the Trustee.
So that they would deal with EVERYTHING.
Sign EVERYTHING.
Take EVERYTHING to do with the 15 properties away from me.

I know I have mentioned this before too.
Sorry.

Then I’ve made myself even more ill with trying to explain this to them. That I’m not able to deal with anything.
Over and over.

And to the Bankruptcy Adviser.

And to my husband.
Because they will phone him at work (while he is dealing with gas and the public) and he just agrees to anything. Says “that will be fine” – as he wants to be helpful.
Then I get put under pressure to do or provide what was asked for.
And I’m usually not able to do it.
Or not even sure what I’m being asked to do.
Or why.
As usually nothing in writing. No guidance. No explanation.

The stress of this has been abysmal.
Utterly abysmal.
It has almost finished our marriage.

For most of the last 10 weeks we haven’t been able to live under the same roof.
No choice any longer for me.
We haven’t split up – we just can’t be in the same place while this is going on.
NB. This is no easy choice.
Given that I can hardly look after myself. With food etc. So I’m eating quite poorly nuch of the time. And I’m in bed so much.
And it is very lonely. As I may speak to not a single person all week until hubby visits at the weekend.

But the stress has been too much for too long.
I felt I was getting pushed to the point where I was at risk of having a stroke or a heart attack. Or a total psychiatric breakdown.

Many times in this blog I have talked about the severe headaches and the disabling chest pains. Plus all the nightmares.
But in real life nobody takes anything I say seriously.

So many people with ME or CFS have an endless battle with medical professionals to be taken seriously.
I have had that too.
But I also seem to be in a battle with the Trustee In Bankruptcy. And the Bankruptcy Adviser (although I’ve given up on that now.)
And even with my own husband at times.
Just to be taken seriously in what I’m saying. Begging them all to hear me.

I’m so traumatised and angered by the whole Bankruptcy thing that me and my husband can’t discuss it at all now. I go into a complete meltdown every single time.
Then my ME is even worse afterwards.

Plus I’m fearful for my husband’s health too. He has high blood pressure now, caused by all of this I’m sure. And needs various medications for it.
All the rows and shocks are very bad for him too I’m sure.

I need to be able to do a letter of response to the Trustee In Bankruptcy. Because there seem to have been some misunderstandings.
They seem to think I have refused to do some things. Thereby “not co-operating” with them. This can be very serious – that much I do know.
It’s not true of course.
And I have to be able to tell them this.
But I can’t.

Because my brain will not work.

A simple letter, and yet I cannot manage this.
I will keep trying of course. But God knows how long this will take me.

This situation really is not fair.

To say I could be made Bankrupt again – because I haven’t been well enough to do things. Or do them quickly enough.
And the whole Bankruptcy was because I could hardly do anything any longer.

If I was able to make phone calls, read letters and documents, and reply clearly and in a timely manner – I would not have needed voluntary Bankruptcy in the first place.

This has been the worst experience of my life.
Because it has all been so out of control to me. Filled with shocks.

I feel like I’m being hammered all the time.
Like being made to walk on broken legs. Over and over.
But its not my legs.
It’s my brain and automatic nervous system that are getting more damaged every time.

#MillionsMissing – another photo

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Following on from my last post on the #MissingMillions day on 25th May 2016.
Here is another photo taken on the day of a lot of empty pairs of shoes that were sent.  This was in one of the American cities.

I just could not work out how to add this photo into the previous blogpost – in place of the one I deleted. Which would have been better.
I realise it is probably very simple when you know how . . .
But I struggle a lot with using any tech things like tablets, mobiles, laptops, etc. So many ME symptoms get triggered off, or made worse.
Hyper-sensitivity, electro sensitivity, or whatever . . . In any case, it can make simple things difficult and painful to do.
Just sending text messages can be torture even with my smartphone’s brightness on the absolute lowest setting.

Anyway, I’ve probably mentioned this before.  But just to explain why I have done another blog post just to correct a photo.

Making a meal of something that ‘should’ have been simple . . . .

Missing from our own lives

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This was the scene in one American city yesterday – just one city.
For a day of worldwide protest called #MissingMillions.
Update :
Photo removed – see notes in Replies section. Sorry for confusion.
I will try to insert another photo into this post – when I have the energy to work out how to do it. Not very good with tech stuff like this . . . !

The shoes belong to people with ME who sent them in. Or got someone to send them. (I didn’t even manage to do that.)
To represent the fact that so many of us with ME are not well enough to attend a protest. Even if it was on our doorstep.

We are missing from our own lives.

And from the lives of our friends and family. Even much of the time from the lives of our husbands, wives or partners.

We are pretty much invisible to the world.

I am exhausted after just following it on twitter yesterday.
To the extent that I haven’t been able to wash, get dressed, or eat any proper food today. Just snacks.
(But I have had many days where I have been much worse than this.)

I wanted to do this blogpost as it was a very emotional thing to see all the photos of empty shoes.
Incredibly emotional.
So many lives going to waste.
And I bet all these shoes only represent a small percentage of the number of sufferers.

It was uplifting too.
And I felt less alone than I have done in a long while.

Surely this will help society realise that we have a serious illness which is very disabling ?

And that we’re not just a bit tired.
Or having a nice sleep in bed.

I wish . . . .

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